Let’s talk about this today, about not making mountains out of molehills. It is actually not the big thing that keeps us from being happy. It is the smallest thing.
I’ve heard it said that: Tornadoes and hurricanes get more news coverage, but in reality termites do more damage.
Most of the time we are NOT dealing with crisis like:
- losing a job,
- a life threatening illness,
- break up,
- death in the family,
- or pandemic.
The big things are rare, but it is in the little inconveniences: like not be able to find your eyeglasses, or being stuck in traffic, or your husband not picking up his socks, even after you ask for 27 years or your wife not leaving the remote control where you can find it.
How we handle the little things will determine what kind of life we live.
In a documentary of coal miners, where they were ask about the thing they fear the most. The interviewer asks them among the dangers they face when they are underground, miles back in those caves. Is it the explosion or a shift that could easily trap them could cut off their air supply?
But, it is interesting, that is not what they’re worried about the most, they said, their greatest fear was something called BLACK LUNG DISEASE, it is when they inhaled the coals for so long that it copes their lungs they can no longer breathe. One of the miners said, “it is the small stuff that kills us.”
He was saying, it is not the big explosions, it is not the cave crashing in, it’s not the dangerous equipment they are working with, it’s simply, the dust.
That’s the way it is many times in life, it is not the major catastrophe that keeps us from being happy. It is the seemingly insignificant thing what we don’t handle correctly. Some people have developed a habit of making mountains out of molehills. They blow everything out of proportion.
They get stuck in traffic it ruins their whole day. If they can’t find their car keys you think the world is coming to an end. If their child doesn’t clean up his room in time it is world war 3. They make everything a big deal. They’ve been doing this for so long, it is just natural for them to overreact and make it bigger than it is and they end up getting themselves upset.
Friends, there are enough big issues you have to deal with without making a big deal out of things that are not a big. Keep it in perspective. In a big picture, if you get stuck in traffic it is not a big deal, if you don’t get your favorite parking spot it is not worth losing peace over. If the repairman doesn’t show up when he promised. Let it go. This too shall pass.
I’ve seen marriages split apart because somebody didn’t squeeze the toothpaste the right way. If you focus on what you don’t like about that person you get to where don’t see the good qualities and it will irritate you more and more until you’ll get into where you don’t want to be around them. If we are not careful we all go through our whole life fixing people and making them just like us.
One of the best things I’ve learned is, God did not bring the people in our life for me to make them just like me. God wants us to be different that is why we have different personalities, different strengths, different hobbies, different looks, if you are going to be happy better learn how to appreciate the differences and not let the little thing that we don’t like to irritate us and cause us to become resentful towards that person.
Nobody is perfect. If you’re going to be in a relationship with people and you want to enjoy it, you got to be willing to overlook some things. Our assignment is not to fix people; our assignment is to love people.
Sometimes we are waiting for other people to change all the while God is waiting for us to change. He is waiting for us to get over it and quit making a big deal out of something that is not a big deal.
For in life that is full of interruptions, inconveniences, things that can cause stress, we have to draw the line in the sand and say I am not going to make a big deal today out of anything that is not a big deal. You have to re-tune your life, you got to come back to that place of peace and find out what’s stealing your joy?
Take inventory, are you making a big deal out of thing that are not a big deal?
The next time you have a challenge ask yourself, is this a five minute, a five hour, even a five month that is not worth living stress out over? If not, then, let it pass. Walk away and decide that it’s not worth giving your peace.
Get up in the morning and say it to yourself “I am not making a big deal out of anything that is not a big deal today.” If you do that, then, you are passing the test. And no matter what comes your way you’d be able to not only be happy, but your relationship will come up to a higher level.
Keeping my cool too,
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